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what we say
what we do.
So surviving starts with the battle of our minds.
we have a whole load of junk there already, it will be particularly difficult to
deal with this enormous pressure. This may be the time when we finally decide to
stop trying to jam the lid back on the can of proverbial worms (and anyway the
lid may now refuse to stay put) and get help.
Your occupational health department should be able to offer a counselling service. (Their service is completely confidential. I have been informed by some people through the website that their Occupational Health department was not independent and do not provide a confidential service. I am not sure how a person can find this out. Others have told me that their Occupational Health people have been excellent.)
may be a counsellor at your GP surgery if they have one.
will also be private practitioners and there may be some volunteer counsellors
connected with a local church or similar organisation. (They should have
accreditation and be properly supervised.)
on some rewards for yourself right at the beginning. You don’t have the cost
of going to work (though you may have other costs through being at home). Could
you use some of your transport money for example, to fund some nice treats for
yourself? Books, music, a massage, ten pin bowling with friends, a meal out with
you live alone think seriously about staying with a family member or friend or
having them to stay with you. You are used to your own company but this is such
a stressful event, you may find it very hard to cope alone. If you feel awkward
about asking, remind yourself you would do the same for them.
3. You will probably find you keep thinking about what has happened and what might happen, to the point of utter weariness. Keep bringing your thoughts back to the present. ‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery, today is a present’! Try this awareness exercise. Remind yourself where you are and what you are doing. Feel your feet touching the floor, your clothes coming into contact with various parts of your body. Acknowledge the information your five senses are giving you. Take some deep breaths, breathing out more slowly after each one. Check the position of your shoulders – let them relax down from your ears!
11. Try some creative activity such as writing, painting, sewing, photography, cooking, landscaping the garden, to name a few. Being creative may help you with your coping and healing.
13. Try this remembering exercise. At the end of each day, before you fall asleep, remember the good things that have happened in the day and enjoy the memories of them. Some examples may be love and kindness shown to you, noticing a beautiful flower or smile, being able to accomplish something however small, the health to enjoy these things.
14. There will be good days and not so good days, even bad days. Can you see a reason for this? Were you overtired? Have you been neglecting yourself? Do you need to talk to someone about what is happening to you? It may be very hard but the choice is yours. Only you can decide.
15. It is very difficult to do, but forgive the people who have taken these actions against you for your own sake. Bitterness and resentment will damage you and make you ill. You have enough to cope with!
Other sources of help for survival
your GP to let them know what is happening. If you don’t feel comfortable
with your GP now is the time to find someone with whom you are comfortable.
If your health suffers significantly, you will need the evidence of your GP
to support what you are saying.
and see a counsellor at the occupational health department to help you cope
with the act of suspension. You may not find it very helpful but it is
important to let as many people as possible understand what suspension is
like so that there will gradually be a groundswell of opinion against it.
There is also the very strong possibility that you do find it helpful to
talk to someone outside the situation.
check your progress, imagine your friend is going through this.
advice would you give them for coping?
you doing it? If not, what can you improve?
small changes and give yourself some of those rewards mentioned earlier.
to be kind to yourself.
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